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I’m In BAWDY STORYTELLING ‘No Holds Barred’ Next Week!

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BawdyLA-April-24-ElCidI’m excited and terrified to be a part of the illustrious Bawdy Storytelling in Los Angeles this coming Wednesday, April 24th at El Cid!

Please come by and enjoy the Tapas, delicious drinks and salacious stories, some funny … some moving, but ALWAYS entertaining. The evening is part “Slam” so bring your own story of turgid temptation and fervid fornication and win prizes and compete for the best storyteller of the month trophy!

For the past six years, Bawdy Storytelling has been entertaining, educating, and erectifying™ audiences around the country. Known as “The Moth for Pervs,” and “The Raunchiest show you’ll ever see in which everyone keeps their clothes on…,” Bawdy features Real people and Sexual Rockstars sharing their honest and awesome sexual exploits in 10 minutes or less – we’re talking no scripts, no nets, and no filters. Hostess/Curator Dixie De La Tour revels in bringing the unexpected, hilarious and transcendent to the stage, so join her and some surprising local heroes for a Wednesday night that’s sure to spur you to make that shared taxi more than just a ride home.

On April 24th, Bawdy Storytelling, join us at the gorgeous El Cid in Silver Lake for ‘No Holds Barred,’ (known as ‘No Holes Barred’ to our close friends)… but whatever you call it, we’re talking about making your own rules in, out, and around the sheets. Bawdy’s true tales of carnal wins and epic fails never fail to sinspire™ people to create a few new stories of their own after the show – and when you do, contact Dixie to share it. Our aim: we want YOU on our stage. Telling your story will change your life!

Tickets $12 in Advance at 
http://noholdsbarredla.eventbrite.com/

$15 Cash at the Door
Remember: Doors at 7:30, Stories at 8:30

ED CID
4212 W Sunset Blvd., Los Angeles, CA
(323) 668-0318FACEBOOK: ‘NO HOLDS BARRED’ EVENT PAGE
TWITTER: @Bawdy
WEB: www.BawdyStorytelling.com

- Writer, speaker and sex-positive activist, Lady Cheeky’s (Elle Chase) unique taste in sensual images and commitment to body- positive and integrative sensuality, speaks to a wide breadth of age groups across all gender, socio-economic, geographic and educational platforms.Lady Cheeky curates popular feminist, sensual images blogwww.LadyCheeky.com which focuses on depicting real desire and passion with a strong emphasis toward positive body image and is proud to have “the most viewed sensual images blog on Tumblr with over 40k followers.” On her sister site, http://www.SmutForSmarties.com/, Lady Cheeky created a blog where readers can enjoy a wide breadth of articles and original erotica with a feminist, sex and body positive perspective. Both Lady Cheeky branded websites have been included in many top sex blogs lists from Get Lusty’s Top 10 Sex Blogs to Between My Sheet Top 100 Sex Blogs of 2012.

As a writer, Lady Cheeky is a regular contributor to the online magazinewww.EvolvedWorld.com and has been featured on The Frisky, Fleshbot, TheRumpus, Corset Magazine, and Rachel Kramer Bussel’s erotica anthology “The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories” Most recently, Lady Cheeky was interviewed for Sheona McDonald’s CBC documentary on women, pornography and technology slated for a 2014 release.

- Our musical guest Holiday Hadley is a charismatic LA based singer-songwriter and pop siren. “Her willowy, sultry appear evokes Michelle Pfeiffer in “The Fabulous Baker Boys,” with rock-tinged chops that should have fans begging for more.” (LA Times). Her debut album “Beachwood Canyon” was released in 2012.

“LADY CHEEKY’S SEX SATORI” from THE RUMPUS

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Photo by Gene Reed

Photo by Gene Reed

BY   4/5/13

Orginally appeared on TheRumpus.net  

Tweet sex sites are a many splendored thing, opening doors to fluid identities that are both sexy and risk-free while erecting an emotional firewall to avoid real, personal rejection. My hackles go up whenever I think about technology replacing human touch, but when I met Lady Cheeky and heard her story of seeking and finding passion via tweet sex, I witnessed a brave new world where one woman’s sexuality was accessed in an accelerated way that involved wooing, teasing, and palpable passion.

“Lady Cheeky” is her Anglophile cybersex identity name, where she is a servant/vessel/wench. We met on the floor at Marilyn Friedman’s essay writing workshop, which I signed up for during a dark time. After dozens of agent rejections flooded my inbox for over a year, I longed to sit in a room with other writers again, hoping to inject my writing with joy by learning new literary tricks from veteran journalist, Taffy Brodesser-Akner. Our assignment was to tell the group what our essay was about and then say one more line declaring what our essay was “really” about.

Lady Cheeky’s wavy, Lucille Ball hair matched her bright red lips. Her curves punched out of her ’40s frock, as she told a hilarious topsy-turvy tale about role-playing on a True Blood-themed, Twitter-based direct message and tweet stream, which led her to start her smart and sexy websites where she met “Lord Byron,” hired a P.I. to check another lover out, and divorced her husband. She also overcame a rare sexual disorder; started a popular sensual images blog; began writing and publishing real-life erotica based on her new, passion-filled experiences; is in the process of working on a memoir; has a new story in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s upcoming erotica anthology, The Big Book of Orgasm; and is currently speaking about body image and sensuality, as well as integrative sensuality.

Lady Cheeky’s story beneath the story was flesh and bone ache deriving from a phantom limb that was pummeled awake by HBO’s True Blood series. I wanted to know more about how True Blood was the springboard to becoming a sexually actualized woman, capable and deserving of passion.

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Inside Her Sex: Documentary Looking For Subjects

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cropped-logo-mast-wordpressnewA couple of months ago I was filmed for an upcoming documentary by Canadian filmmaker, Sheona McDonald that will be released next year. The working title is Inside Her Sex and explores how women’s sexuality is influenced by pornography and technology. It’s a huge subject but she’s interested in keeping it broad for now because the avenues are great and the people she’s  are meeting fantastic.
Sheona is always interested in talking to people who can provide insight on the subject  – authors, filmmakers, educators, activists, explorers, etc. - and is always up for suggestions on things to read and look at.
She is also interested in talking to women who are embarking, or have embarked on a significant journey of sexual discovery (whatever this may be) that they are willing to share. So, if you are interested or might know someone who is, please feel free to pass this request on with her contact info (below).

 

Sheona McDonald

sheona@dimestore.org

www.dimestore.ca

 

Check out their latest film:
www.cbc.ca/whendreamstakeflight

and also …

www.capturingashortlife.com
www.whendreamstakeflight.com

Kissing Women: Their 7 Favorite Places

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575482_605174409498301_1794244505_nBy Sarah Stefanson      Originally published on AskMen.com

Chances are good that you are not using one of the best tools in your sexual arsenal to its full potential. This secret weapon is your mouth. We’re not just talking about oral sex here, although you should be giving her oral pleasure on a regular basis if you want to be a good lover, and we’re going to go beyond kissing on the mouth in this article, which you should have mastered by now if you want to kiss her anywhere else.

Your mouth can be applied to various other parts of her body by kissing, licking, nibbling, biting, and sucking. Anywhere you touch her with your hands will most likely feel even better when stimulated by a warm, wet mouth. When it comes to kissing women, some of their favorite places are obvious, while others are frequently overlooked.

Ears

The ears are an often-neglected area of the body that can be the site of intense pleasure for her and using your mouth is the best way to stimulate them. Gentle nibbling on the earlobe is a reliable way to send shivers down her spine, but you should also try lightly brushing your lips against her ear, which will rouse the soft, fine hairs there creating waves of tingly pleasure.

Back of the neck

One of the easiest and most dependable ways to get her in the mood is to place your mouth on the back of her neck. This works especially well if you take her by surprise. When she’s at the sink doing dishes or working on the computer, approach her quietly from behind, sweep her hair off the back of her neck and kiss her there. She will soon forget her task and want more.

Face

There are few things more personal than kissing a woman on the face. Your warm, fuzzy feelings for her can be expressed by placing sweet, light kisses on her cheeks, forehead, jaw line, even her nose and closed eyelids. But don’t lick her face. Just don’t. It’s icky, not sexy. No biting either. Her face should be treated with tenderness and reverence.

Collarbone

While her clothes are still on, one of the most intimate places you can lay some kisses is along her collarbone. A woman’s exposed collarbone is sexy and your mouth on it makes her think of your mouth on more private parts of her body. So start off with kisses there before you move on to places you can’t reach while she’s fully clothed.

Hips

Her hips are more sensitive than you would guess. It could be because they are so close to the center of her physical pleasure. Whatever the reason, kissing, licking and nibbling at her hips will send currents of delight down to her toes and up to the top of her head. Don’t neglect this place she wants your mouth to be.

Breasts

Putting your mouth on her breasts can be intensely sexy, but doing it wrong can turn her right off. Kissing, licking and sucking are all recommended and even some gentle biting can be acceptable as long as you take it easy. Her breasts are delicate, so don’t forget that you have to treat them appropriately. Unless she’s into hardcore S&M, hard sucking and biting are no-nos. Her breasts should not have bruises when you are done with them. Also, remember that her nipples are not the only parts that need some attention. Use your mouth all over her breasts for maximum effect.

No-go areas

No matter where your mouth ends up, it’s probably going to make her feel good. However, there are a couple body parts you should always get permission to apply your mouth to before exploring, including her feet and her bum. Some girls simply aren’t into having your mouth in these sensitive areas, so ask her before you go there. On the other hand, some girls would enthusiastically welcome some toe sucking or some tongue action down below. Find out where she stands and use your mouth accordingly.

Sarah Stefanson is a writer, editor and advice columnist for a variety of online magazines on subjects as varied as sex, relationships, fashion, women’s issues, travel, and autos. She and her boyfriend live in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, where they are both working on novels.

The CAT Position: A Key to Unlocking Your Orgasms

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sexual-position-conception-1By Dr. Jessica O’Reilly

If you’ve done some research or have a little practical experience, you likely already know that experimenting with a wide range of sexual play is the key to great sex, as most women don’t orgasm during penile-vaginal intercourse alone. However, this doesn’t mean that orgasms during intercourse are out of the question. In fact, orgasms that combine penetration with clitoral stimulation can be intensely satisfying for all parties involved.

One approach to orgasm-inducing intercourse involves the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). This positioning and movement can provide a woman with both vaginal and clitoral stimulation, stimulate a man’s shaft and prostatic nerves and does not require any challenging gymnastic moves or flexibility. Hooray! Because we’re tired of swinging off chandeliers, right?

The CAT is a basic modification of the missionary position that involves the man riding up on a woman’s pelvis so they can rock and rub the clitoris against the base of his penis and/or pelvic bone. Here’s the basic breakdown:

  1. The woman lies on her back and the man lies on top inserting his penis into the vagina.
  2. He then shifts his body upwards along hers (he can rest his hands/arms beside her head) so that the base of his penis and pelvic bone press firmly against her clitoral hood and pelvic bone.
  3. Often the CAT involves the woman pressing her pelvis upwards and wrapping her feet around his calves.
  4. Play with synchronized rocking and rubbing movements as opposed to in-and-out thrusting.
  5. Some women find intensified pleasure in squeezing their legs together during the CAT to create greater friction and tension. This squeezing sensation can also intensify the male partner’s pleasure.

CAT-300x165Sound technical? It’s really quite simple and feels a lot better than it looks on paper. Don’t take my word for it. Try it out for yourself!

Once you’ve got the hang of rubbing the clitoral hood and female pelvic bone against the hard base of the penis and/or male pelvic bone during intercourse, you can modify the CAT into a range of other positions on your side or even upside down.

If the CAT doesn’t make you tingle with passion, don’t feel the need to give up on intercourse entirely. No singular approach to pleasure works for every woman, but if you keep experimenting, you’ll find your triggers. Play with running water, vibrating toys, fingers, tongues and fantasy until you find your toes curling with pleasure beneath the sheets (or on the hood of the car as the case may be).

And ladies and gents, please don’t ignore all your other beautiful erogenous zones: the brain, breasts, thighs, backs of knees, feet, palms, neck, ears, belly, bum and more!

Some women can orgasm through fantasy alone and others can reach the heights of ecstasy with a little breast play. Others swear by anal stimulation, while some find sharing of far-fetched fantasies incomparable as a means to orgasmic release.

Combine any of these activities to find what works for you. With the right attitude and a healthy sense of humour, you should enjoy both the process and the end result.

Have fun experimenting and always practice safer sex!

Originally published in Eligible Magazine.com  14 March 2012

5Dr. Jessica O’Reilly is a sought-after sexologist with a PhD in human sexuality. She maintains a private practice in Toronto and travels the world to speak at events that promote healthy and deliciously pleasurable sex. From regular appearances on Cosmopolitan Television and Playboy TV to hosting retreats in the sunny Caribbean, she relishes in every moment! Check out her website SexWithDrJess.com, follow her on Twitter and Facebook.