My Secret Luxury: The Lady Cheeky Luxury Sex Toy Recommendations

logoLadyCheeky_pluralI was recently asked by the folks at My Secret Luxury to list a few of my favorite sex toys. I came up with this list and I thought I’d share. But … be sure to check out the other sexperts picks! The MamaSutra, Emerald, Shanna Katz, Cooper Beckett, The Redhead Bedhead, Rori of Between My Sheets and Drs. Steve & Vera Bodansky. I’m thrilled to be in such great company!

The Lady Cheeky recommends…

Jimmyjane FORM 2 Vibrator - I like my vibrator to have at least one stroooonnng setting and this delivers. I’ve traveled all over the country with mine and because it’s made impeccably, the FORM 2 takes a lick’ and keeps on ticking’!

We-Vibe 3 Vibrator - Many toys in one. Use it by yourself alone or with a dildo, use with your partner. The size is perfect for vaginal, g-spot, clitoral or anal stimulation. We-Vibe 3 has a remote AND is 40% stronger than the pervious versions.

Aneros Peridise Anal Set - Fantastic shape for men and women alike who enjoy anal play.

Aneros Evi Kegel Exerciser - I’ve said it before, “EVI is like a barbell for your lady bits.” The EVI is absolutely the BEST kegel exercisers on the market. I’ve actually drive with it in. It’s THAT comfortable.

Yes Butter Lubricant - I love this product because it’s all natural, lasts forever and has multiple uses. It’s my go to lube for sex, dry skin repair, lip balm and to tame flyaway hairs. How many things can you say that about?!?!

Tantus Purr Vibe Dildo - In my opinion, Tantus makes the best dildos around. Not only arew the shapes delicious, their commitment to manufacturing a pristine and safe producy makes me feel confiden about what I’m playing with.

Jimmyjane HELLO TOUCH Vibrator - Um. Wow. Because the vibration is attached to fingers, it makes “vibrator” masturbation more intimate and sensual. I simply love it.

Jimmyjane Iconic Rabbit Vibrator - It’s a good size, great strength and…is made well. I’ve had mine for 5 years and it still looks new and works as well as it did when I bought it. Other brands either weren’t strong enough…or had too many bells and whistles and most often weren’t made as well.

Check out MY SECRET LUXURY at http://www.MySecretLuxury.com

 

I’m In BAWDY STORYTELLING ‘No Holds Barred’ Next Week!

BawdyLA-April-24-ElCidI’m excited and terrified to be a part of the illustrious Bawdy Storytelling in Los Angeles this coming Wednesday, April 24th at El Cid!

Please come by and enjoy the Tapas, delicious drinks and salacious stories, some funny … some moving, but ALWAYS entertaining. The evening is part “Slam” so bring your own story of turgid temptation and fervid fornication and win prizes and compete for the best storyteller of the month trophy!

For the past six years, Bawdy Storytelling has been entertaining, educating, and erectifying™ audiences around the country. Known as “The Moth for Pervs,” and “The Raunchiest show you’ll ever see in which everyone keeps their clothes on…,” Bawdy features Real people and Sexual Rockstars sharing their honest and awesome sexual exploits in 10 minutes or less – we’re talking no scripts, no nets, and no filters. Hostess/Curator Dixie De La Tour revels in bringing the unexpected, hilarious and transcendent to the stage, so join her and some surprising local heroes for a Wednesday night that’s sure to spur you to make that shared taxi more than just a ride home.

On April 24th, Bawdy Storytelling, join us at the gorgeous El Cid in Silver Lake for ‘No Holds Barred,’ (known as ‘No Holes Barred’ to our close friends)… but whatever you call it, we’re talking about making your own rules in, out, and around the sheets. Bawdy’s true tales of carnal wins and epic fails never fail to sinspire™ people to create a few new stories of their own after the show – and when you do, contact Dixie to share it. Our aim: we want YOU on our stage. Telling your story will change your life!

Tickets $12 in Advance at 
http://noholdsbarredla.eventbrite.com/

$15 Cash at the Door
Remember: Doors at 7:30, Stories at 8:30

ED CID
4212 W Sunset Blvd.Los AngelesCA
(323) 668-0318
FACEBOOK: ‘NO HOLDS BARRED’ EVENT PAGE
TWITTER: @Bawdy
WEB: www.BawdyStorytelling.com

- Writer, speaker and sex-positive activist, Lady Cheeky’s (Elle Chase) unique taste in sensual images and commitment to body- positive and integrative sensuality, speaks to a wide breadth of age groups across all gender, socio-economic, geographic and educational platforms.Lady Cheeky curates popular feminist, sensual images blogwww.LadyCheeky.com which focuses on depicting real desire and passion with a strong emphasis toward positive body image and is proud to have “the most viewed sensual images blog on Tumblr with over 40k followers.” On her sister site, http://www.SmutForSmarties.com/, Lady Cheeky created a blog where readers can enjoy a wide breadth of articles and original erotica with a feminist, sex and body positive perspective. Both Lady Cheeky branded websites have been included in many top sex blogs lists from Get Lusty’s Top 10 Sex Blogs to Between My Sheet Top 100 Sex Blogs of 2012.

As a writer, Lady Cheeky is a regular contributor to the online magazinewww.EvolvedWorld.com and has been featured on The Frisky, Fleshbot, TheRumpus, Corset Magazine, and Rachel Kramer Bussel’s erotica anthology “The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories” Most recently, Lady Cheeky was interviewed for Sheona McDonald’s CBC documentary on women, pornography and technology slated for a 2014 release.

- Our musical guest Holiday Hadley is a charismatic LA based singer-songwriter and pop siren. “Her willowy, sultry appear evokes Michelle Pfeiffer in “The Fabulous Baker Boys,” with rock-tinged chops that should have fans begging for more.” (LA Times). Her debut album “Beachwood Canyon” was released in 2012.

“LADY CHEEKY’S SEX SATORI” from THE RUMPUS

 

Photo by Gene Reed

Photo by Gene Reed

BY   4/5/13

Orginally appeared on TheRumpus.net  

Tweet sex sites are a many splendored thing, opening doors to fluid identities that are both sexy and risk-free while erecting an emotional firewall to avoid real, personal rejection. My hackles go up whenever I think about technology replacing human touch, but when I met Lady Cheeky and heard her story of seeking and finding passion via tweet sex, I witnessed a brave new world where one woman’s sexuality was accessed in an accelerated way that involved wooing, teasing, and palpable passion.

“Lady Cheeky” is her Anglophile cybersex identity name, where she is a servant/vessel/wench. We met on the floor at Marilyn Friedman’s essay writing workshop, which I signed up for during a dark time. After dozens of agent rejections flooded my inbox for over a year, I longed to sit in a room with other writers again, hoping to inject my writing with joy by learning new literary tricks from veteran journalist, Taffy Brodesser-Akner. Our assignment was to tell the group what our essay was about and then say one more line declaring what our essay was “really” about.

Lady Cheeky’s wavy, Lucille Ball hair matched her bright red lips. Her curves punched out of her ’40s frock, as she told a hilarious topsy-turvy tale about role-playing on a True Blood-themed, Twitter-based direct message and tweet stream, which led her to start her smart and sexy websites where she met “Lord Byron,” hired a P.I. to check another lover out, and divorced her husband. She also overcame a rare sexual disorder; started a popular sensual images blog; began writing and publishing real-life erotica based on her new, passion-filled experiences; is in the process of working on a memoir; has a new story in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s upcoming erotica anthology, The Big Book of Orgasm; and is currently speaking about body image and sensuality, as well as integrative sensuality.

Lady Cheeky’s story beneath the story was flesh and bone ache deriving from a phantom limb that was pummeled awake by HBO’s True Blood series. I wanted to know more about how True Blood was the springboard to becoming a sexually actualized woman, capable and deserving of passion.

… To read the rest of the interview, CLICK HERE:logo-sm

Bawdy Storytelling LA – Tomorrow, March 27th at El Cid in Silverlake!

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Bawdy Storytelling presents

‘The Unlikeliest Places’

Featuring:

- Sex Educator & Porn Icon Nina Hartley
- Bravo’s Miss Advised & Sex with Emily’s Emily Morse
- Fleshbot‘s Senior Erotic Consultant & the brains behind GramPonante.comGram Ponante
- Music by The Turgidaires
- And YOU! This is part curated Bawdy Storytelling, part BawdySlam: share your 5 minute story for prizes & braggin’ rights

Giveaways from Vixen Creations (“The Cadillac of Cock”)
BawdySlam Grand Prize Package from Screaming O Adult Novelties (Yes, the same prizes found in the gift bags at the Oscars!)

Ever have that moment where you wake up in a small county jail without your shoelaces, belt, or dignity? Yeah, me neither. How about some random bed where you try to remember where your pants are, where the handcuff key is, and why your ass hurts? Me neither. But have you ever wanted to hear stories from people who have, though? Yeah, me too!

This month, Bawdy Storytelling presents ‘The Unlikeliest Places’ — a firm and probing exploration into sexploration … LA style. From hopping a fence to getting drunk in a hospital to good ol’ stickin’ it where it don’t normally fit, come hear stories about boldly going where most men and women just shouldn’t, couldn’t, and in some states dictated by law, MUST NOT go.

This show will be a mix of renowned sex-positive celebrities for the curated portion of our show, followed by BawdySlam (where people just like you take to the Bawdy stage and share personal and intimate adventures for prizes and the title of Dirtiest Storyteller in LA). Bawdy’s award-winning take on sex and storytelling has made it not only a “don’t miss” event in the cities we’ve already conquered, but it serves as a gathering of the bold, the beautiful, and (if our fan mail is to be believed) an awesome first date destination. Each themed evening of true dirty stories features tales of carnal wins and epic fails with no scripts, no nets, and no holds barred. You may even go home with a few new tricks for your boudoir arsenal!

As the great American poet Iggy Pop once said, “You know I’ve had it in the ear before…” Come to the gorgeous El Cid to enjoy tapas, drinks (my fave are the drinks made with this incredible homemade jam!), flirting and stories that would make little Jimmy Osterberg blush!

Taking place at the historic El Cid, a treasured Silver Lake Landmark. It’s under new management, and has a delicious new menu under the direction of renowned chef Olivia Hernandez. Bawdy’s first LA show at El Cid sold out fast so get your tickets NOW – we want you there!

DOORS AT 7:30 – SHOW AT 8:30 PM

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4212 SUNSET BLVD LA 90029

(323) 668-0318

TICKETS $12 IN ADVANCE AT:

HTTP://BAWDYUNLIKELIESTLA.EVENTBRITE.COM/

ONLINE TICKET SALES END AT 5:30 DAY OF SHOW & WILL BE $15 (CASH) AT THE DOOR (SPACE PERMITTING).

 

Performer Bios:

imagesNina Hartley (@Ninaland) is a pioneering feminist sex worker, using her body in the service of promoting a sexually sane and literate society. She is thrilled to see a new generation of sex-positive performer/activists take its space and spread the good news about sex. For the past thirty years her rock-solid commitment to the importance of sexual autonomy has fueled Nina Hartley’s career in adult entertainment. As a performer, director, writer, educator, public speaker, and feminist thinker for all, no matter their orientation, she’s traveled the world to deliver her message. She believes that sexual freedom is a fundamental human right and welcomes the new social media opportunities for spreading her message of knowledge and empowerment to the widest number of people. She’s the author of, “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex,” from Avery Press. Putting to use her B.S. degree in nursing, she and her husband, I.S. Levine, have produced the million-selling sex-ed video series collectively known as “The Nina Hartley Guides,” from Adam & Eve, currently in its 38th episode. Still active in front of the camera, she and her husband live in Los Angeles.

images-1Emily Morse (@SexWithEmily) is a sex & relationship expert, author, talk show host & Bravo TV star. She is the host of Sex With Emily, a radio show and podcast about sex, relationships and everything in between. Listen to the show on demand at www.SexWithEmily.com , through iTunes on Friday nights on Sirius/XM Satellite radio.

 

dandyGram Ponante (@gramponante) has been America’s Beloved Porn Journalist for most of this century, providing much-needed insight on the adult industry in the San Fernando Valley—the region’s greatest natural resource—at www.GramPonante.com, Fleshbot, Hustler, and dozens of classy magazines for Gentlemen and discerning Ladies. His “A Porn Valley Odyssey: Making The Facts of Life XXX” is a betterselling Amazon eBook.

WATCH a sample of Bawdy Storytelling HERE

This week’s LA WEEKLY loves BAWDY!

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Bawdy Storytelling Comes to Los Angeles This Week!

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Help me welcome the amazing Dixie De La Tour and her rockstar storytellers this Wednesday, February 27th in Los Angeles! I’ll be there, so please say hi! If you’ve never been to a storytelling show before this is a great way to get your feet wet. Smart and smutty stories from some of L.A.’s best storytellers and sex nerds! Bring a dirty mind and some smelling salts because it’s called BAWDY Storytelling for a reason! – Lady Cheeky

FEATURING:

- Sex educator & Podcast Phenom Sex Nerd Sandra (@SexNerdSandra)
- Moth Host & Emmy nom’d writer+producer Brian Finkelstein (@bsfinkelstein)
- Host/Producer of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, Author NIkol D S Hasler (@NikolHasler)
- Music/Adventure/Mad Science by Rich Riggio
- And YOU! This is part curated Bawdy Storytelling, part BawdySlam: share your 5 minute story for prizes & braggin’ rights
- Giveaways from Big Teaze Toys

WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 27, 2013

Doors at 7:30,
Show at 8:30 PM

El Cid 
4212 Sunset Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90027
(323) 668-0318

TICKETS:  http://BawdyStorytellingSecretlifeLA.eventbrite.com/

Tickets $15 or $12 in advance thru Feb 24th

Bawdy Storytelling – America’s Original Sex+Storytelling series featuring Real People and Rockstars sharing their bona fide sexual adventures – is coming to LA! Entering it’s seventh year in San Francisco, Bawdy Storytelling (the J. Edgar Hoover to your size 13 cha-cha heels) will draw LA’s smartest and smuttiest to El Cid’s stage to share tales of our ‘Secret Life’: sex with strangers, assumed names, role playing, and that time with the best boy, the key grip and a roll of gaffer’s tape in the editing room <yes, we know about that>.

This show will be a mix of renowned sex-positive celebrities for the curated portion of our show, followed by BawdySlam (where people just like you take to the Bawdy stage and share personal and intimate adventures for prizes and the title of Dirtiest Storyteller in LA!

Bawdy’s award-winning take on sex and storytelling has made it not only a “don’t miss” event in the cities we’ve already conquered, but it serves as a gathering of the bold, the beautiful, and (if our fan mail is to be believed) an awesome first date destination. Each themed evening of true dirty stories features tales of carnal wins and epic fails with no scripts, no nets, and no holds barred. You may even go home with a few new tricks for your boudoir arsenal!

The historic El Cid is a treasured Silverlake Landmark. Now it’s under new management, and has a new menu under the direction of renowned chef Olivia Hernandez. This is going to be a very special evening. Think tapas, cocktails and flirting…

About the Storytellers:

mg_2785a- Sandra Daugherty (Sex Nerd Sandra) is a passionate sex educator based in Los Angeles. Her irreverent humor and quirky love for details has given rise to her moniker, Sex Nerd Sandra. Sandra is the resident sex blogger on Chris Hardwick’s Nerdist.com. She also works & teaches at The Pleasure Chest in Los Angeles and coaches individuals. She has been seen on ‘Keeping Up with the Kardashians,’ the pilot episode of The Wanda Sykes Show, & has also lent her voice to both Playboy and Spice Radio. Sandra believes human sexuality should be a distinct field of study as it is a distinct & important aspect of our lives. And she, for one is happy, quite happy, to study it.

normal- Brian Finkelstein is a regular performer and teacher at The Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre in Los Angeles, as well as the host of the LA Moth Story-slams. He has performed his solo shows in a variety of venues from the HBO/US Comedy Arts Festival in Aspen to the 2012 Summer Nights Festival in Perth, Australia. He’s also an Emmy-nominated writer for his work on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Currently his screenplay, Good Grief is being produced by 72 Productions and he’s touring with The Moth.

images- Nikol Hasler is the Producer & Host of The Midwest Teen Sex Show (a regular in top ten iPod health podcasts) which gained press attention from the Wall Street Journal, Glamour Magazine, CBS Evening News with Katie Couric, Nightline, and even The O’Reilly Factor, among others. Hasler has been called upon to be an expert to discuss issues such as teen pregnancy rates, AIDS awareness, and the rise of sexually transmitted infections in American teens, and her video and screen writing work has included original videos for Hearst Corporation and One Economy Corporation She is the author of “Sex: A Book For Teens” which features back cover endorsements from Dr. Jocelyn Elders and Betty Dodson, and has written for Glamour, Fray Quarterly, Beatweek Magazine, RH Reality Check, Alternative Press Magazine, Crushable.com and The Onion’s A.V. Club Chicago.

dixie2 - Dixie De La Tour founded San Francisco’s ‘blue personal narrative’ movement almost five years ago in a Burning Man warehouse. The off-color nature of her life was at odds with her diehard love of storytelling until she decided to create Bawdy Storytelling, a place for other people with poor self-control to share their antics, too. As a card-carrying pervert who sports both Southern charm and a mouth that would make a Sailor blush, she’s earned her Ph.D in sex-positive culture after more than a decade of hosting, promoting and throwing underground sex parties and events. Dixie runs Bawdy Storytelling full time, writes for the zine SanFranSexy, and recently left full-time employment in Women’s Marketing for an Adult Dating & Hookup site (where she wrote porn star bios and content for the women’s sexuality site SheLovesSex, plus served as Community Moderator for people on the make). She’s currently working on a book of her own adventures, and is planning to take over the world – one bawdy story at a time.