My Secret Luxury: The Lady Cheeky Luxury Sex Toy Recommendations

logoLadyCheeky_pluralI was recently asked by the folks at My Secret Luxury to list a few of my favorite sex toys. I came up with this list and I thought I’d share. But … be sure to check out the other sexperts picks! The MamaSutra, Emerald, Shanna Katz, Cooper Beckett, The Redhead Bedhead, Rori of Between My Sheets and Drs. Steve & Vera Bodansky. I’m thrilled to be in such great company!

The Lady Cheeky recommends…

Jimmyjane FORM 2 Vibrator - I like my vibrator to have at least one stroooonnng setting and this delivers. I’ve traveled all over the country with mine and because it’s made impeccably, the FORM 2 takes a lick’ and keeps on ticking’!

We-Vibe 3 Vibrator - Many toys in one. Use it by yourself alone or with a dildo, use with your partner. The size is perfect for vaginal, g-spot, clitoral or anal stimulation. We-Vibe 3 has a remote AND is 40% stronger than the pervious versions.

Aneros Peridise Anal Set - Fantastic shape for men and women alike who enjoy anal play.

Aneros Evi Kegel Exerciser - I’ve said it before, “EVI is like a barbell for your lady bits.” The EVI is absolutely the BEST kegel exercisers on the market. I’ve actually drive with it in. It’s THAT comfortable.

Yes Butter Lubricant - I love this product because it’s all natural, lasts forever and has multiple uses. It’s my go to lube for sex, dry skin repair, lip balm and to tame flyaway hairs. How many things can you say that about?!?!

Tantus Purr Vibe Dildo - In my opinion, Tantus makes the best dildos around. Not only arew the shapes delicious, their commitment to manufacturing a pristine and safe producy makes me feel confiden about what I’m playing with.

Jimmyjane HELLO TOUCH Vibrator - Um. Wow. Because the vibration is attached to fingers, it makes “vibrator” masturbation more intimate and sensual. I simply love it.

Jimmyjane Iconic Rabbit Vibrator - It’s a good size, great strength and…is made well. I’ve had mine for 5 years and it still looks new and works as well as it did when I bought it. Other brands either weren’t strong enough…or had too many bells and whistles and most often weren’t made as well.

Check out MY SECRET LUXURY at http://www.MySecretLuxury.com

 

Not Opposed or Entirely Different

tumblr_mbs1lrASQV1qdartlo1_500by Lady Cheeky

Just because I am open does not mean I let everyone in

Just because I let you in doesn’t mean I do it for everyone

Just because you get a second chance doesn’t mean you’ll get a third

Just because I have some hard edges doesn’t mean I’m not soft
Just because I flirt with you does not mean we will fuck

Just because I enjoy sex does not mean I want to have it now

Just because I express my sexual self does not mean that I am taking numbers

Just because I believe every woman should enjoy her body does not mean it’s an invitation for you to

Just because I want to be wooed does not mean I am high-maintenance

Just because I sleep with you does not mean I will accept less than I should

Just because I want you to fuck me does not mean you can’t be a gentleman

Just because I take charge does not mean I don’t want you to

Just because I want to be treated as a whole person does not mean I don’t like you

Just because I want to be acknowledged for my other charms does not mean I don’t want you inside me

Just because I accept you between my legs does not mean I am “easy”

Just because I’m attracted to you does not mean you can be lazy

Just because I am a feminist does not mean I don’t appreciate chivalry

Just because I talk dirty does not mean I don’t like tenderness

Just because I call you does not mean you can come over

Just because I am pretty does not mean I don’t want to hear it from you

Just because I am confident does not mean I don’t worry you won’t like me naked

Just because I am smart does not mean I won’t say stupid things

Just because I am horny does not mean I don’t want to be held

Just because I speak freely doesn’t mean I give it freely

Just because I am a woman does not mean I don’t want it like a man
Just because I want you does not mean you don’t have to try

Just because I mean this now does not mean I won’t mean it later

Just because I stand up for myself does not mean it’s not scary

Just because I like you does not mean I’ll settle

Just because …

 

 

Six Writers Who Know More About Sex Than You Do (So Read Them)

By David DiSalvo  Originally published on Forbes.com on 5/28/12

You probably think you know a thing or two about sex…and I’m sure you do. But, you probably don’t know more than the handful of writers I’ve chosen to profile below, because these people are hardcore. By that I mean, they really know their stuff, and their stuff is quite sexy.  Most of them write about other topics as well and do a fine job of it, but for the moment I want to get you acquainted with their sensual sides.

images-4Jesse Bering

Jesse Bering writes the outstanding Scientific American column, “Bering in Mind”. His essays and books are consistently rich and engaging, but some of his best writing comes in response to reader questions — and people will ask him just about anything. The remarkable thing is that no matter the question–whether it’s about a latex fetish or scatological arousal–Bering has a well-researched, erudite response that teaches more about whatever sex-related topic is at hand than quite a few books I’ve come across.  I have yet to come away from reading one of his essays or responses to reader questions and not feel considerably better informed than I was just minutes before. Be sure to also check out his latest book, “Why is the Penis Shaped Like That?: and Other Reflections on Being Human” that’s scheduled for release in a couple months.

images-3Sheril Kirshenbaum

Sheril Kirshenbaum is an example of a science writer (and scientist) with many interests and the talent to cover them all well, but her claim to fame is a book she wrote about the science of kissing, entitled, fittingly enough, “The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us”.  You think you know what’s going on when your lips meet his/hers?  Read this book and I guarantee you’ll start seeing the kiss and physical affection overall in an entirely new light. Kirshenbaum’s triumph is that she’s able to pull that off without leaving us with a clinical, sanitized aftertaste. There’s a fine line between scientific insight that broadens and enriches our perspective, and dispassionate knowledge that dulls our appetite for being human. Fortunately, Kirshenbaum knows where that line is and doesn’t cross over to the dark side.

do-gentlemen-really-prefer-blondes-bodies-behavior-brains-jena-pincott-paperback-cover-artJena Pincott

Jena Pincott is talented, sharp, and an extremely nice person — but most importantly for this list, one hell of a writer. Her sex science gestalt came with her book,“Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes? Bodies, Behavior, and Brains–The Science Behind Sex, Love, and Attraction”.  I read the book a couple years ago in preparation for an interview with Pincott and can still remember my astonishment coming across stuff I couldn’t believe I didn’t know.  Seems like there’d be an age of sexual cognitive ripeness after which there aren’t any new surprises. Read Pincott’s book and you’ll know that’s far from being the case.  More recently, she wrote a book about pregnancy entitled, “Do Chocolate Lovers Have Sweeter Babies?: The Surprising Science of Pregnancy”. If you are considering having a child, or even if you already have kids, this book will teach you a few new things with a style that will make you feel like you’re chatting with someone in the same room.

imagesMary Roach

Mary Roach holds the high honor of having written perhaps the best known sex-science book to hit shelves in the last 10 or so years: “Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex”. When I spoke to her about her experiences writing the book (and she had a few notably salacious ones), she said “Bonk” is what happens when a liberal arts kind of person takes on a science topic — she had to experience the topic to do it justice.  If you are already acquainted with Roach’s writing, you know that she is as funny as she is smart.  You’d have a better chance of being bitten by a shark in your swimming pool than you would getting bored while reading “Bonk” or any of her other entertaining books.

images-1Kayt Sukel

Kayt Sukel’s work was just recently brought to my attention, but I’m already seeing why she’s a sex-science notable. Her first book, “Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex and Attraction”  is receiving several favorable reviews and, from what I have read so far, strikes me as a judicious blend of neuroscience, psychology and sociology. She also writes about sex and other topics for The Washington PostUSA Today and The Christian Science Monitor, and writes a regular blog about sex, love and life for The Houston Chronicle.  And she’s one of the few writers that I’ve seen embraced with equal passion in the pages of Elle and Scientific American on the same subject. She’s clearly doing something right.

images-2Marty Klein

When it comes to finding an expert on all things sex, you can’t come much closer than Marty Klein. He’s written seven books and over 200 articles on the subject, and he writes a regular blog at Psychology Today called “Sexual Intelligence”.  Of course, there are thousands of credentialed sex experts out there, but what makes Klein different (and worthy of this list) is his ability to communicate what he knows.  He’s also one of the more controversial of the writers on this list for his position on sex addiction (he calls it a “dangerous concept”) and his outspokenness on what he calls the “Oprah-ization of therapy.”  His strong stances on those and other issues contributes a grittiness to his writing that I find refreshing. Klein is going to tell you what he thinks with straight-to-the-point prose, and the best part is you’ll learn a lot from reading what he has to say whether you agree with him or not. Check out his latest book, “America’s War on Sex”.

13ce661a5749d13150b5505905169ad4David DiSalvo: I’m a science, technology and culture writer who contributes to Forbes, Scientific American Mind, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, Esquire, Mental Floss and a smattering of other publications. My first nonfiction book, “What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite” (Prometheus, 2011) is available in paperback and Kindle, and my second book, “The Brain in Your Kitchen” is now available for Kindle. More at my website: www.daviddisalvo.org. Contact me at: disalvowrites [at] gmail.com. You can find me on Twitter @neuronarrative and at my website, The Daily Brain.

Choosing the Best G-Spot Vibrator

By Trina Denzel

The concept seems so simple: a straight device with 45 degree tilted tip. Supposedly the key to intense internal orgasmic power, then why are some women feeling less than pleased with their vibrator?

The truth is some models are purely for looks. Made to look stylish on the shelf to incite the customer to make a  purchase. Others have the tilted tip sort of like an afterthought, considered a “value added feature” to a standard vibrator.

This does not mean they won’t feel good however, but if your intended purpose is to get the best g-spot stimulation, there’s a few things you should be looking for before you hit the checkout.  If you need a refresher on where the g-spot is, you can check out this video by Dr. Oz from Oprah.com

6 Features Found on the Best G-Spot Vibrator:

 1.  A Firm Touch

A firm build should be your only choice with plastic being the best. Any soft material will bend or squish, reducing the pressure placed on the g-spot. If comfort is a concern, let it be known you may feel a poke as you slide it inwards but once in place, it’s smooth sailing to pleasuretown!

 2.   A Helping Handle

When the vibrator is inside of you, it’s easy to have it miss your point, especially if you’re thrusting or moving around. Moving a few centimeters to the side can mean the difference between a massively wonderful orgasm and an OK one. If the vibe has a finger loop at the base or the like near the bottom to help you distinguish which way it’s facing, you’ll never stray from the intended spot.

 3.   Vibration at the Tip

Luckily, most vibrators of this style have motor placement at the top – but not all. Read the product description or ask the sales associate where the motor is located. A motor right in the curved tip is going to radiate the strongest sensation directly into your body.

 4.   Thinner is a Winner

There is a multitude of widths for sale but for precise g-spot massage, you’ll want to choose one with a thinner shaft. The reason is, a thicker shaft feels good as the labia, but it competes with the feeling of g-spot massage. Save the thicker vibrator for your realistic model or even dildo selection. A thin shaft is typically 1 1/2 inches wide or less.

 5.   Must Have Power

This tip can possibly conflict with tip number 4. Consequently, a thinner shaft means smaller structure which means less space for batteries which means less power. It’s not to say vibes using a single battery are not good, they will still give you a great massage but a stronger level of vibration really takes it up a big step. Look for a vibrator that uses at least 2 AA batteries or 3 AAA’s.

6.   Longer is not better

A tip your man would love to hear, just kidding! There are many excellent vibes on the market that are short. Some women don’t even look twice at these models thinking they won’t reach, but truth is the g-spot is only 2 – 3 inches up, extra length will not carry any orgasmic benefit.

These guidelines can help you choose the g-spot vibrator that will offer the strongest orgasm potential. Even though several styles exist only a select handful will provide all the features listed above offering a woman the chance to enjoy a secret orgasm that radiates internally, a big difference from a clitoral orgasm. And a g-spot vibrator is often very economical as well allowing better pleasure at an affordable price.

Trina Denzel is a happily married sex-positive author who loves to promote the power of a healthy sex life with a humorous twist. She writes the blog and product descriptions on The Adult Toy Shop and regularly contributes articles to women’s interest blogs with the goal of enhancing personal playtime for women and sharing closer intimacy. Check her out on Twitter: @FriskyTweets

Lady Cheeky is in Top 100 Sex Blogs 2012 – Between My Sheets

I would like to thank Rori from Between My Sheets for listing this blog as #38 in her Top 100 Sex Blogs of 2012! Of course this couldn’t have happened if YOU didn’t vote for me! Sure, I campaigned (LOL) but YOU listened and supported me so thank you to all that voted and read this blog! xoxox LC

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