Posts in category Shame

GUEST POST: Lifestyle Blogger Sarah Sapora confronts the intersection of sex and body im...

GUEST POST: Lifestyle Blogger Sarah Sapora confronts the intersection of sex and body image

A Body of Confidence (or How I Stopped Thinking and Learned to Enjoy the Intimate and Unfamiliar)style Blogger Sarah Sapora confronts the intersection of By Sara Sapora, Confidence is not concrete. It is fluid and amoeba-like. Aqueous and ever changing. And just when you think you’re grasping it in your hands, it can trickle through […]

Hey Dove, What About a "Happy" Do...

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Hey Dove, What About a “Happy” Door?  Personally, I love the idea and commitment behind the Dove body image campaigns, and this is a great effort, but in my humble opinion, I think adding a “Happy” door would have been more impactful. What do you think? Let me know in the comments.      

Fifty Shades Of Grey: Has it Changed The Way Women Think About S...

Fifty Shades of Grey has repeated its runaway US sales success in Britain.

No matter how you feel about ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ one must admit it has opened up our national conversation about sexuality. By now, you’d have to be living under a rock if you haven’t at least heard of the E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, let alone not read the trilogy. Fifty Shades is Twilight for the “Soccer Mom” set […]



I’ve never written a blog before, but recent media news about the sexual allegations against Jian Ghomeshi have prompted me to think more deeply aboutideas that this project, this film, have caused me to explore in the last few years. There have been some fantastic articles around the Jian Ghomeshi case and they are easy to access, so I don’t need to cover that ground again. Personally, I think the most relatable concepts in the whole situation are  secrets, shame & tolerance. Understanding what we, particularly as women, are willing to bear in our sexual relationships and encounters. I know very few, if any, […]

Why Fifty Shades of Grey Has Changed the Way Women Feel About Sex by Elle Ch...


(originally published on By now, you’d have to be living under a rock if you haven’t at least heard of the E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, let alone not read the trilogy. Fifty Shades is Twilight for the “Soccer Mom” set and just as poorly written, yet women can’t get enough of […]

How Your Thoughts Look On Your Body (nsfw) by Elle Ch...

How Your Thoughts Look On Your Body (nsfw) by Elle Chase

Look at this woman’s body. Look at her in terms of the first picture being one of self-appreciation and confidence.   Then look at the second one being of self-deprecation. Which one do you relate to?   Chicago photographer Gracie Hagan likes to play with with themes of emotion and perception in her work. In […]



    I happen to live in Los Angeles where being over a size 8 is a felony. This can be depressing when I am searching for a cute bathing suit or a stylish pair of jeans in a city that considers the ‘norm’ a size 2. At those times I like to remind myself […]

Big, Beautiful Sex on The Pleasure Chest Bl...

Big, Beautiful Sex on The Pleasure Chest Blog!

We were delighted to have sex educator Lady Cheeky at our Los Angeles store last night, teaching her body positive workshop Big Beautiful Sex. She shared her insights about overcoming fat-shaming, building sexual confidence, and finding the toys and positions that work best for your body. The workshop was such a big hit that we want to […]

Why Does LinkedIn Hate Sex Education? by Sabrina Mor...


Originally published on 12/4/13 We have a real problem with our sex educators and writers getting booted off of sites like Facebook and LinkedIn, and having their funds frozen by processors like PayPal, because of these companies’ refusal to touch the erotic. Specifically, perceived status as a (current or former, as PayPal clarified to […]

Los Angeles: Lady Cheeky's Free Workshop: Big Beautiful Sex at The Pleasure Ch...


Who says you have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life? Whether it’s media and advertising images of “perfect” bodies or snarky comments about our weight, fat-shaming is all around us, and it can get in the way of our sexual confidence and pleasure. In this workshop, which combines lecture and […]


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Elle Talks w/ Tristan Taormino About Big, Beautiful Sex

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