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*** EXCLUSIVE *** Sexy Excerpt From “In The Office” by Alyssa Halford

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In_the_Office_Cover “Can you hold my sweater for me?” she whispers. “It’s a bit warm in here.”

I hadn’t noticed the sweater. She arranges it on my lap. Then the penny drops.

“There,” she says. “Comfortable?”

“Very,” I whisper back. Am I reading this right? There is no other way. I can feel my heart start to pound as I see her slim hand slide under the covering.

“Allow me,” she whispers. She finds my zipper and tugs. I look around quickly to see if anyone has heard but all eyes and ears are focussed on the front.  Some bullshit presentation about avoiding your “triggers”. Too late for me. I help her as discreetly as I can, pulling up on the fly so she can unzip me. Jeans open, warm hand and long fingers reach into my boxer briefs and expertly circle my cock. She moves a bit to adjust her arm’s angle then squeezes. Squeezes oh-so-gently, and then waits. I don’t take my eyes from the screen.

And it begins, the tortuous grasp, her beautiful hand on my shaft stroking up and down slowly, achingly. Up to the head to rub and press just the right spot, then a quick subtle twist and back down. Her hand is lotioned with something floral and tantalizing. Not overpowering, just right. My cock is standing full at attention now and aching to be free of my jeans. There is no way we can do that, I realize. I glance quickly out the corner of my eye and see a soft smile on her beautiful face. She turns slightly to wink quickly before looking back to the screen. A dimple. A dimple in her beautiful face tells me she’s enjoying this. She crosses her legs and closes her eyes a moment. Oh yes, she’s enjoying this too. God I can’t wait to fuck her.

Her hand works faster, bringing me close to my breaking point. Up, down, twist, pressure under the tip of the head. She can’t reach inside my pants more so I can only imagine what it would be like to have her hand have free rein over my cock and balls. Pulling, squeezing, agonizing fluid motions, no hesitation as she works my dick and balls til I come all over her tits. Or ass. Anywhere.

alyssa_halford-CUBEAbout the Author: Alyssa Halford

A male-focused author.  Women may enjoy too, of course; but it seems men prefer.

I write erotica and romance, including light BDSM, public sex, and casual encounters. I do not write hardcore BDSM or torture. I err on the side of Eros, not Thanatos.

I’m a big fan of HEA and HFN, whenever I do write romance.

In my spare time I suffer greatly as an actuary, but manage to find time to take long hot bubble baths with my sexy, nubile girlfriends. We giggle, kiss, paddle each other’s bums and then I write about it.

I like koalas.

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Twitter:      @AlyssaHalford

Site:    http://www.alyssahalford.com

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5 Tips For Giving a Great Blow Job

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By Jennifer Miller   First published on LA Weekly.com AFTER DARK – 10/20/12

The first time I ever gave head, my then-boyfriend came in my mouth before I had time to say, “are you almost finished here.” I was 16, and after it happened, I looked back up at him for reassurance. I was a hot mess – semen dripping down the side of my face, hair disheveled, mascara running off of one eye. He took one look at me and grimaced.

“Oh, God,” he said.

Not in a good way.

Anyway, that was years ago, and I’m happy to report that my technique has improved, as have my bedroom manners. But oral sex comes naturally for exactly no one, and so we’ve recruited Kristen Tribby, a sex educator at The Pleasure Chest, to give us some tips. Today, we’ll cover how to give an outstanding blow job.

1. Hands are the key to using your mouth
So! You thought blow jobs were only done with your mouth. Well, you’ve been approaching it all wrong. Hands are an essential part of a good beej, Tribby said in an email, because hands can create the kind of friction that a mouth can’t.

“A great blowjob is often a combination of using your hand to tug on the penis while adding sensation and suction with your mouth,” she said. “You can also use a finger or two to put pressure on the perineum (the taint) for an external prostate massage. If you press on this, you can really enhance a man’s orgasm.”

Tribby adds that “if you’ve negotiated it,” you can lube up a finger and slip it into his ass.

2. Good news! You don’t have to deep throat
Anyone who has ever had a cock in his or her mouth understands the pressure to deep throat. You just kind of feel like you have to. But good news! Deep throating is “not necessary,” said Tribby.

Phew.

However, should you want to take an entire penis all the way down your esophagus, Tribby suggests that the best way to do so is to have the natural curve of the penis in question follow the natural curve of your throat.

“Try it first with him on his back and you on your side,” she said. “Keep your hand on the base of his cock to go at your own pace. Swallow when you feel like you have reached your limit which will help to go further and widen your throat.”

3. Don’t neglect the balls
I feel like this is something that everyone knows, but kind of ignores. Balls just kind of hang there, right? You can always cup them if you want to, but who feels like doing that? Well, says Tribby (and I paraphrase), stop being such a lazy asshole.

“Most guys like their balls being cupped during a blowjob,” she said. Simple enough.

4. Men have brains too
Poor men. They’ve been depicted over and over as imbeciles who are driven solely by their dicks, but in fact, turns out that they have brains just like the rest of us. And Tribby notes that those brains sometimes need stimulation just as much as the balls you hold in your hands.

“The best BJs begin with the brain,” she says. “Both of you should be turned on for a good BJ. Build up the tension with dirty talk.”

5. A final tip: Vibration
I asked Tribby what her favorite unconventional blow job tip was, thinking I’d get hit with some dominatrix shit that I’d never even heard of, but in fact what she said was fairly straightforward: Vibration.

“Men typically think [vibration] is only for women,” she said, but “you can use a vibrator behind the balls, pressed against the perineum, to really intensify his experience.”

So! Bust out that pocket rocket, cup those balls, and warm up your hands. Tonight, you’re going in for the kill.

The Pleasure in Giving Pleasure By Camille Crimson

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If you’re here, then you must like smut and you must be smart.  That makes you my kind of person.  When Lady Cheeky and I were talking about some type of guest post/collaboration for the site, we were very much on the same page right from the beginning, with ideas firing off left, right and centre.  It’s exciting to be in that type of conversation: two women, thrilled to be talking about sexuality and their minds.  While we ping-ponged correspondence, she was sweet enough to wax philosophical about why she likes what I do.  (What I do, in case you didn’t know, is make loving, sensual and respectful porn all about blowjobs.)

As she addressed the values of actually enjoying what you do, I got thinking.  It’s all well and good to believe that people should love giving pleasure, but it’s not quite as easy as that, especially depending on their personal experiences.  It’s just like anything else that you know is important and good for you, but isn’t necessarily easy to do.  Sometimes your presence of mind is there and you are able to do it, and there are moments where it seems like it could totally become routine and eventually natural for you, but then something stalls and you feel out of place…  Learning a new routine is hard.

So what do you do if you find yourself giving pleasure more out of a sense of duty than from a deep desire within?  What if you don’t have that innate natural urge to do that thing your partner loves?  Well, you have to give yourself some reasons, some time to ruminate on them and remind yourself that it’s a process.

There are a lot of good reasons to learn to love to give sexually.  Among them, it really does improve sex.  If your partner is feeling like you care about their pleasure, they’ll have an infinitely better time.  And not that it’s all about quid pro quo, but (in many cases) the more you give, the more you get.  Being open to giving pleasure fosters an environment that encourages that for both of you.  By receiving pleasure, your partner is reminded of how good that feels and hopefully the cycle will continue.

In order to give pleasure, there needs to be a lot of communication, whether it’s verbal or body language or just feeling the energy between you.  The more you unfold about the way they like to feel, the more you’ll understand them.  Not that sex is always an indicator of the way people are in other aspects of life, but you may find yourself with a deeper appreciation for their little quirks…  You may see more of them in everything they do by unfolding this new side.  Having this type of insight can mean so much for a relationship.

There’s also a real sense of empathy that can crop up.  That isn’t to say that you will feel bad for not naturally being a pleasure-giver, but getting close like this can put you in tune not only with their physical reactions, but with their emotional ones too. Seeing your partner in the afterglow of amazing sex can bring up so many feelings.  It can be quite an incredible experience, and you really do get hooked on that sensation.  Everything leading up to that moment becomes all the more exciting and necessary in retrospect, and that does help to shift into the pleasure-giving mentality.

It’s nice to develop a new skill.  It makes you feel good about yourself to feel like you’re good at something, and making your partner feel amazing is one of the most beautiful and complicated things you can do.  It’s not always going to happen, but even in the pursuit of an orgasm, you create amazing sensations.  It’s an excellent self-esteem boost, not just for a job well-done, but for opening up and getting better in tune with this part of yourself.

That’s a wonderful thing.  It does take a certain vulnerability to be able to really give yourself over to creating sensuality.  It’s not just as simple as giving a blowjob or a handjob or whatever it is you’re trying to appreciate from within…  It’s about accessing a whole different level of eroticism and connection.  it’s a path to understanding yourself better, because you go through things and you think about your reactions and your preconceptions in order to get there.  It may sound cheesy, but there is an element of a journey to really getting in touch with a way to enjoy giving pleasure and making that a part of your life.  It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it for everyone.

ABOUT CAMILLE CRIMSON:
Camille Crimson is the webmaster and performer behind TheArtofBlowjob.com and SlowMotionBlowjob.com.  She also keeps her own blog at CamilleCrimson.com and has had writing recently featured on xoJane.com, GoodMenProject.com and has a weekly advice column on Fleshbot.com.  She believes that blowjobs can be sensual, connected and fun and that porn can truly be beautiful.

Lady Cheeky’s Favorite Books On Sex

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        Amazon.com: Lady Cheeky: Lady Cheeky’s Book Suggestions

In case you were looking for some scintillating or informative reading on SEX … I put together a list of my favorites. I could only do this as a “wish list” on AMAZON, but don’t worry , I’m not asking you to buy me books!  Just thought I’d provide a list of books I like to those that are interested.  xo LC