Jan 172014
 
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Maggie Mayhem

This list and it’s original title “50 Things I’ve Been Meaning To Say About Sex” originally appeared on www.MissMaggieMayhem.com on November 8, 2013.  If you don’t know who Maggie Mayhem is, you should – in my opinion she is one of the great minds of the sex-positive movement. I loved this list so much I wanted to share it with you. Read them.  Print them. Memorize them. Share them with everyone you know and visit her site and her Tumblr often.  So, with permission from Miss Mayhem here is a re-print of “50 Things I’ve been Meaning to Say About Sex. by Maggie Mayhem”   xo LC

 

 

 

  1. There is no easy set of steps for giving or receiving pleasure.
  2. There is no finish line.
  3. Your triumphs and your traumas will impact your sexuality.
  4. Sex itself can be a source of triumph and trauma.
  5. Hydration really does make a difference.
  6. There will be plot twists.
  7. Your sexual preferences may not match your needs or opportunities for pleasure.
  8. Sometimes the most skillful application of touch won’t do what a single caress or glance from someone you are centered upon can do.
  9. It’s more than active or passive. You can be actively-passive and passively-active in sex.
  10. You may summon something you weren’t prepared to receive.
  11. You will experience cognitive dissonance.
  12. You are more beautiful than you know.
  13. You are not entitled to your partner’s sexual backstory. It’s their choice to share.
  14. It’s fucked up to make someone feel bad about their body and how it works.
  15. Take time to breathe.
  16. Sometimes you will be terrified.
  17. Humans have sex for reasons that include but are not limited to pleasure or procreation.
  18. Be prepared for fluids.
  19. You will shed many sexual skins over your lifetime.
  20. Blood sugar really makes a difference.
  21. Using sex as a weapon is when you unilaterally commandeer someone’s body for your use, not when you are soliciting sexual attraction.
  22. Feeling fascinated or attracted to someone does not entitle you to their time and attention.
  23. Things may not meet expectations.
  24. Orgasms are just one piece.
  25. No one else is an authority on your sexuality.
  26. Sometimes you will be confused.
  27. Sometimes you will find ecstasy in the orgiastic, sometimes in the ascetic.
  28. The power of sex to hurt and to heal demands our respect.
  29. Sex is more than what we will ever say about it.
  30. There is no default state of sexual consciousness.
  31. You will find times when words will utterly fail you.
  32. What your body does may not be congruous with your desire.
  33. Context is key.
  34. Sex can be both a source of empowerment and dis-empowerment.
  35. The experience of another may offer wisdom or perspective but it might not be applicable to your life.
  36. An orgasm does not always mean pleasure.
  37. You may run into people who treat you as an inferior version of their projection of you.
  38. There are many different motivations to have sex.
  39. Implemental sex is neither greater nor lesser than non-implemental sex.
  40. The hottest thing in the world might not turn you on anymore.
  41. The value placed upon any given sex act or object is relational rather than intrinsic.
  42. Random causes should not be confused with essential facts.
  43. Your props of sexual summoning will change over time.
  44. Sexual union on non-physical planes exists.
  45. No element of sex is compulsory.
  46. Consciously changing your breathing patterns will change your experience of sex.
  47. Sex can be an instrument of knowing.
  48. Sexual definitions will fail to contain their referents.
  49. There’s really no such thing as an expert on sex.
  50. I don’t endorse everything I’ve said or thought about sex, not even this list.

 

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Jan 092014
 

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We were delighted to have sex educator Lady Cheeky at our Los Angeles store last night, teaching her body positive workshop Big Beautiful Sex. She shared her insights about overcoming fat-shaming, building sexual confidence, and finding the toys and positions that work best for your body. The workshop was such a big hit that we want to share the highlights with all of you!

Tips for Learning to Feel Sexy

Remember this: ”The person there with you in the room – they want to be there.”

“To feel better about having sex, you have to have sex.” Notice how confident you are while you’re afterglowing, and bask in that confidence.

Take time to touch the parts of your body that you normally want to hide in ways that feel pleasurable.

If you look in the mirror and think that you look ugly, replace that with a neutral observation: “I have red hair.”

Try going to a Korean spa. Everyone is walking around naked: you get to just be another body.

Notice how you judge other people’s looks. Try to be more compassionate in your thoughts. You’ll train yourself to be nicer to yourself.

Finding Your Favorite Toys

Try a longer toy that gives you some extra reach:

– The Magic Wand Original is an unbeatably powerful vibe.

– The Njoy Pure Wand may look like “a Star Trek torture device,” but it’s everyone’s favorite G-spot/prostate toy.

 

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Dec 212013
 
LCBestToys2013

I know I’m a lucky woman. Sex toy and lube companies will often send me samples of their products to try and sometimes review. I don’t consider myself a “sex toy reviewer” per se, but I do have opinions and hopefully a sensitivity to what others may or may not like about a toy. I thoroughly test the toys  multiple times, perhaps compare notes with other sex bloggers and sex educators and give it a lot of thought.   Even if something doesn’t work for me, I can usually see how it might work for someone else. So, unless a product is so awful it actually offends me, I will usually just point out why it didn’t work for my particular body, areas of improvement and sometimes suggestions that (IMHO) I think might make the product better. That being said …

I tried a LOT of toys, had a LOT of opinions and had a LOT of orgasms and here is the reason why …

Please to enjoy, in no particular order, a list of my most beloved products of the year.

The Lovelife Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator by OhMiBod- When I pre-viewed OhMiBod’s Lovelife line last July,I giggled like a schoolgirl. Lovelife was beautiful, all pink and white and perfect like gum, I felt like I did when I was 7 years old and saw the new Barbie Dreamhouse. But when I took a gander at the Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator, I literally had to squelch back an audible chirp of excitement. Looking like a cross between a cartoon sword and … well, a sex toy, it was certainly unusual. When I was told it’s an insertable with an anal AND clitoral vibrator attached … AND each perfect vibrating vector point had it’s OWN motor (that’s THREE FREAKIN’ MOTORS, FOLKS!), I had to clutch my pearls and ask for a glass of water. Now it’s December, I’ve had my Adventure for two weeks and it’s my new boyfriend. Every woman is different but for me, the Adventure gave me a cavalcade of fantastic orgasms. Just think about it … it’s made to stimulate your vagina, anus and clit … all at the same time … with 3 powerful motors!  From the strength, to the versatility to the high-end and adorable packaging, OhMiBod took my pleasure seriously. At a price point in between affordable and luxury,  it’s anincredible value and well worth the money. In conclusion … ech, I shouldn’t have to say anything else. You all should be ordering this right now.  Go on!  Get!   The Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator  $99.00

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Droplet Necklace

 

 Crave Droplet Necklace- More jewelry than sex toy, this elegant lariat necklace shows you have style with a mischievous side. The 43′ stainless steel chain (nickel free) is attached to a steel “droplet” that hangs from each end. Each droplet hides a a tiny, subtle vibrator that can be turned on by twisting the bottom cap. It’s not strong enough for much more than nipple stimulation, but who cares? You’re wearing a vibrator around your neck and you look good doing it.  I have one in “rose gold”  but I’m dying for it in “silver” (hint, hint)  Crave Droplet Necklace $109  

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Lucky Bloke Condom Sampler

Lucky Bloke Condom & Lube Samplers -Let’s face it, if you ask them, most guys don’t like wearing condoms, the usual reason stated is they say sex with a condom is not as pleasurable as sex without. Usually the culprit is that that they’re wearing the wrong condom for their penis. Condoms need to be tried and tested to see which brand and size works best for the penis owner. Once the right condom is found it’s like discovering a whole new world. Lucky Bloke sells individual condom and lube sampler packs. You can buy a variety of your own choosing or one of the packs they curate. Either way, it turns grabbing a pack of condoms from the drugstore into a whole new discovery process. I’m a huge fan of Lucky Bloke and it’s not just because they sell my “Lick by Lick, Blow by Blow Oral Sex Kit. I love Lucky Bloke because it makes trying different condoms easy, cost effective and painless.Their lube sampler packs work on the same premise. That’s how I discovered my favorite lube, Please Cream (see above), without having to get a big bottle of it first. I could go on and on … just check it out for yourself.    Condom & Lube Samplers by Lucky Bloke  $6.99 and up

Stronic DREI

Stronic DREI

The Stronic DREI by Fun FactoryFun Factory is clear; Don’t call this toy a vibrator. It’s not, it’s a PULSATOR. Normally, this type of qualification would annoy me, except they are 100% right. This is nothing like a vibrator. This pulsating toy is the next best thing to having a real live penis, attached to a real live person, fucking you in a real live way. It took me a few tries to warm up to the DREI, but once I did, I could see why my colleagues had been singing the praises of the whole pulsating, thrusting, waterproof and rechargeable line of insertables from Fun Factory. Drei’s powerful motor rumbles and plunges back and forth, while its smooth ridges massage and stimulate whichever orifice suits your fancy. The best part? You can use it hands-free. You’re welcome. Fun Factory Stronic Drei $199 

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The Liberator Wedge

Liberator Wedge - Three’s almost no position you can’t make a little better in the bedroom with this simple, adaptable, high-density,foam wedge.  Use it to lift up your partner’s hips for better oral access or for a different approach to missionary. Lay yourself or your partner over the wider edge of the wedge for easier doggie-style or anal angles. You’ll love the freedom it gives you and your partner. The great thing about Liberator, is that they make theirwedges and ramps in two sizes; a standard size 24″ length and a plus size 30′ length. Liberator is aptly named if only for the this thoughtful touch, which is not only extremely helpful to the larger user but also those who have mobility issues. Now that I own one, I can’t imagine not having it easily accessible for all the ways (above) I use it. If you like, you can upgrade later to the larger Ramp that Liberator offers and still use your wedge in conjunction with it for even more positions. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love their favorite Liberator. Check out their website to see the varying shapes and sizes to choose from and don’t forget to watch the ultra erotic and steamy instructional videos demonstrated by sex majick rockstar and sexual wellness expert Jaiya. You won’t be able to tear yourself away.  The Wedge by Liberator $90.00

 

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Tantus “Duke” dildo

Echo and Duke Dildos by Tantus - Ok, I listed two, so sue me. In my opinion, Tantus makes the best dildos around. Not only are the shapes well-designed and delicious, their commitment to manufacturing a pristine, simple and body-safe product makes me feel secure about what I’m putting inside me. The Echo is a nice size member with ridges, giving the user a nice massage on the vagina’s inner walls. The stout and thicker Duke, is a silkier smooth ride for size queens. Both have a removable vibrating bullet that slips in from the bottom which gives it a nice … uh … resonance. :)  but here’s a tip; replace the bullet that comes with it and substitute the We-Vibe Tango bullet vibe (see above) which is way stronger and you’ll feel the difference.  Tantus Echo $67.99 & Duke $69.99  

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Pink Crystal Butt Plug

Crystal Delights Pink Crystal Glass Butt Plug- Here’s a sentence I never thought I’d utter, “God, I love the feel of glass in my ass.” But ever since I tried Crystal Delights glass toys Im a convert. Glass is a whole other animal when it comes to intimate sensation. It’s cool and smooth and slips in soooo easily (with your favorite lube). The weight, temperature and slickness of each plug is something that really has to be experienced. It doesn’t hurt that it’s beautiful to look at, with it’s single pink crystal on the flared base to add a little sparkle to your butt (Sparklebutt!). Crystal Delights does glass well and they’re always coming up with cool ways to bedeck your bottom;  like faux bunny and pony tails, corkscrew shaped dildos and plugs and even a pink glass plug with a rhinestone Hello Kitty on the end, Crystal Delights certainly makes some of the most unique sex toys out there.  Everyone who enjoys a little anal play should own one of these beauties, in fact you might love them so much you’ll start a collection … like me. Crystal Delight Pink Crystal Butt Plug  $69.99 

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Hello Touch by Jimmyjane

Hello Touch Vibrator by Jimmyjane - Two tiny (but strong) vibrators that attach to two fingers, connected to super thin wires  and anchored to a wristband. Because the vibration is attached to fingers, it makes “vibrator”masturbation more intimate and sensual by yourself or with a partner. I frequently give my bedmate a hand job with this on, and he likes to explore me with the Hello Touch in away he’s not been able to before. Um. Wow. great for sensation play, internal or external stimulation, there’s simply so many ways you could use this gem. Done without care, the Hello Touch had the potential to be a waste of money but instead is a wonderful addition to my favorites collection. Thank goodness Jimmyjane got a really difficult to pull off product right. I simply love it. The Hello Touch makes me think if they can pull this off … maybe they could design a cunnilingus simulator that actually feels like cunnilingus? How about it Jimmyjane?  Jimmyjane Hello Touch $65.00 

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We-Vibe Tango

We-Vibe Tango – This dynamo has what I like to call the four “S’s,” small, slim, simple and STRONG which is exactly what you want in aclitoral vibe. The size of a Chapstick, The Tango is a rechargeable, waterproof little bullet that packs a punch for when you just really need to get off … like RIGHT NOW. I use it alone and with other toys (see Tantus Echo) to get a more satisfying ride. This is the only bullet you will ever need, in fact I threw away all my others. In fact, if this thing could do my taxes and cook, I would never leave the house. We-Vibe Tango  $79.99 

 

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Please Cream

Please Cream Lube by Pleasure Works - My good friend sex educator and sex toy superhero,JoEllen Notte, The Redhead Bedhead turned me on to Please Cream, now my favorite lube on the planet.  I don’t know how Pleasure Works did this, but they managed to make a water-based, body-safe, glycerin free lube, feel like and last like a hybrid lube (water-based with some silicone added). Please Cream was thick enough not run anywhere I didn’t want it to when applying and it proved to be more long-lasting than any other water-based lube I’ve tried. It even has a pleasant taste! As a Please cream Devotee, When I’m in San Francisco I buy a bunch of the 3 ounce bottles that they don’t sell online at Good Vibes because they fit so nicely in my nightstand and carry-on when I travel. Pleasure Works also make a silicone and a water-based gel too and I’m sure they’re great. I don’t know because I haven’t had any reason to try them, Please Cream is just “it” for me.   Please Cream by Pleasure Works $16.00 for 8 oz.bottle 

 

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We-Vibe 4

We-Vibe 4 Couples Vibrator - The We Vibe 3 was great and the We-Vibe 4 is even better. We-Vibe has refined it’s fourth reprise of it’s famed couples vibe by making it, well … much more “couples friendly.” The We-Vibe 4 is slimmer and made with a silicone that doesn’t become a lint magnet (which bothered me in the last iteration). They’ve upgraded the remote and streamlined it so it fits better and more comfortably in your vagina and labia. If you are having penis – vagina sex it will feel amazing on his shaft. If you are scissoring, vulva to vulva then you both win too! I like to add it to oral sex sometimes and place it at the base of his penis, you can even use it by yourself or with a dildo. Basically, the We-Vibe 4 is many toys in one, comes in a nice case, feels nice, it’s powerful and it does what it says it does. So when does it get bad?  We-Vibe 4  $159.99

 

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EVI by Aneros

EVI by Aneros – I loathe exercise of any kind … even kegel exercise, but I do it anyway because it’s good for me. So, when something comes along that makes exerting myself painless and easy, I’m in.  The EVI does just that for my PC muscles (Kegels). Aneros has been making impeccable products for men all these years, so it comes as no surprise that their first product for women is just as beautifully made. In the past I’ve described the EVI as “a barbell for your lady-bits” (yes, I referred to my vagina as “lady-bits” – don’t hate) and that’s not far off the mark. A complete departure from Ben Wa or other weighted kegel balls, the main body of EVI seems to fit perfectly into my vaginal canal, while the outside flange rests nicely on my vulva (a feeling that’s not altogether unpleasant). I’ve cleaned the house and gone shopping with it in. Though, I can’t say that will be true for every woman, I can say it works nicely for me. Women of size take note, it’s the only kegel exerciser that I can see working for ample-sized women who find it difficult to insert kegel balls.   EVI by Aneros $59.99 

 

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Sex Butter

Sex Butter  - I love this product for many reasons not the least of which is it smells yummy … peppermint with a slight hint of cocoa. Originally invented for women of a certain age who experience vaginal dryness this proprietary mix of beneficial and natural oils and butters was huge hit when it originally hit the shelves.  Now the all natural Sex Butter is in its second iteration, which has made it fluffier and even more yummy smelling. Sex Butter is perfect for committed couples that enjoy sex WITHOUT a condom (oil breaks down latex and other materials used in condoms/dams. Do not use oil based lube with a condom.)  Sex Butter is a fave because it lasts for-ever and has multiple uses. I like to massage it on my vulva every few days as a way to keep my luscious lips soft. It’s fantastic for dry skin repair, lingam/yoni massage, lip balm and to tame flyaway hairs. How many lubes can you say that about? Oh yeah, did I mention it smells yummy? Sex Butter $39.95

 

Dec 212013
 
LCBestToys2013

I know I’m a lucky woman. Sex toy and lube companies will often send me samples of their products to try and sometimes review. I don’t consider myself a “sex toy reviewer” per se, but I do have opinions and hopefully a sensitivity to what others may or may not like about a toy. I thoroughly test the toys  multiple times, perhaps compare notes with other sex bloggers and sex educators and give it a lot of thought.   Even if something doesn’t work for me, I can usually see how it might work for someone else. So, unless a product is so awful it actually offends me, I will usually just point out why it didn’t work for my particular body, areas of improvement and sometimes suggestions that (IMHO) I think might make the product better. That being said …

I tried a LOT of toys, had a LOT of opinions and had a LOT of orgasms and here is the reason why …

Please to enjoy, in no particular order, a list of my most beloved products of the year.

The Lovelife Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator by OhMiBod- When I pre-viewed OhMiBod’s Lovelife line last July,I giggled like a schoolgirl. Lovelife was beautiful, all pink and white and perfect like gum, I felt like I did when I was 7 years old and saw the new Barbie Dreamhouse. But when I took a gander at the Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator, I literally had to squelch back an audible chirp of excitement. Looking like a cross between a cartoon sword and … well, a sex toy, it was certainly unusual. When I was told it’s an insertable with an anal AND clitoral vibrator attached … AND each perfect vibrating vector point had it’s OWN motor (that’s THREE FREAKIN’ MOTORS, FOLKS!), I had to clutch my pearls and ask for a glass of water. Now it’s December, I’ve had my Adventure for two weeks and it’s my new boyfriend. Every woman is different but for me, the Adventure gave me a cavalcade of fantastic orgasms. Just think about it … it’s made to stimulate your vagina, anus and clit … all at the same time … with 3 powerful motors!  From the strength, to the versatility to the high-end and adorable packaging, OhMiBod took my pleasure seriously. At a price point in between affordable and luxury,  it’s anincredible value and well worth the money. In conclusion … ech, I shouldn’t have to say anything else. You all should be ordering this right now.  Go on!  Get!   The Adventure Triple Stim Vibrator  $99.00

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Droplet Necklace

 

 Crave Droplet Necklace- More jewelry than sex toy, this elegant lariat necklace shows you have style with a mischievous side. The 43′ stainless steel chain (nickel free) is attached to a steel “droplet” that hangs from each end. Each droplet hides a a tiny, subtle vibrator that can be turned on by twisting the bottom cap. It’s not strong enough for much more than nipple stimulation, but who cares? You’re wearing a vibrator around your neck and you look good doing it.  I have one in “rose gold”  but I’m dying for it in “silver” (hint, hint)  Crave Droplet Necklace $109  

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Lucky Bloke Condom Sampler

Lucky Bloke Condom & Lube Samplers -Let’s face it, if you ask them, most guys don’t like wearing condoms, the usual reason stated is they say sex with a condom is not as pleasurable as sex without. Usually the culprit is that that they’re wearing the wrong condom for their penis. Condoms need to be tried and tested to see which brand and size works best for the penis owner. Once the right condom is found it’s like discovering a whole new world. Lucky Bloke sells individual condom and lube sampler packs. You can buy a variety of your own choosing or one of the packs they curate. Either way, it turns grabbing a pack of condoms from the drugstore into a whole new discovery process. I’m a huge fan of Lucky Bloke and it’s not just because they sell my “Lick by Lick, Blow by Blow Oral Sex Kit. I love Lucky Bloke because it makes trying different condoms easy, cost effective and painless.Their lube sampler packs work on the same premise. That’s how I discovered my favorite lube, Please Cream (see above), without having to get a big bottle of it first. I could go on and on … just check it out for yourself.    Condom & Lube Samplers by Lucky Bloke  $6.99 and up

Stronic DREI

Stronic DREI

The Stronic DREI by Fun FactoryFun Factory is clear; Don’t call this toy a vibrator. It’s not, it’s a PULSATOR. Normally, this type of qualification would annoy me, except they are 100% right. This is nothing like a vibrator. This pulsating toy is the next best thing to having a real live penis, attached to a real live person, fucking you in a real live way. It took me a few tries to warm up to the DREI, but once I did, I could see why my colleagues had been singing the praises of the whole pulsating, thrusting, waterproof and rechargeable line of insertables from Fun Factory. Drei’s powerful motor rumbles and plunges back and forth, while its smooth ridges massage and stimulate whichever orifice suits your fancy. The best part? You can use it hands-free. You’re welcome. Fun Factory Stronic Drei $199 

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The Liberator Wedge

Liberator Wedge - Three’s almost no position you can’t make a little better in the bedroom with this simple, adaptable, high-density,foam wedge.  Use it to lift up your partner’s hips for better oral access or for a different approach to missionary. Lay yourself or your partner over the wider edge of the wedge for easier doggie-style or anal angles. You’ll love the freedom it gives you and your partner. The great thing about Liberator, is that they make theirwedges and ramps in two sizes; a standard size 24″ length and a plus size 30′ length. Liberator is aptly named if only for the this thoughtful touch, which is not only extremely helpful to the larger user but also those who have mobility issues. Now that I own one, I can’t imagine not having it easily accessible for all the ways (above) I use it. If you like, you can upgrade later to the larger Ramp that Liberator offers and still use your wedge in conjunction with it for even more positions. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love their favorite Liberator. Check out their website to see the varying shapes and sizes to choose from and don’t forget to watch the ultra erotic and steamy instructional videos demonstrated by sex majick rockstar and sexual wellness expert Jaiya. You won’t be able to tear yourself away.  The Wedge by Liberator $90.00

 

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Tantus “Duke” dildo

Echo and Duke Dildos by Tantus - Ok, I listed two, so sue me. In my opinion, Tantus makes the best dildos around. Not only are the shapes well-designed and delicious, their commitment to manufacturing a pristine, simple and body-safe product makes me feel secure about what I’m putting inside me. The Echo is a nice size member with ridges, giving the user a nice massage on the vagina’s inner walls. The stout and thicker Duke, is a silkier smooth ride for size queens. Both have a removable vibrating bullet that slips in from the bottom which gives it a nice … uh … resonance. :)  but here’s a tip; replace the bullet that comes with it and substitute the We-Vibe Tango bullet vibe (see above) which is way stronger and you’ll feel the difference.  Tantus Echo $67.99 & Duke $69.99  

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Pink Crystal Butt Plug

Crystal Delights Pink Crystal Glass Butt Plug- Here’s a sentence I never thought I’d utter, “God, I love the feel of glass in my ass.” But ever since I tried Crystal Delights glass toys Im a convert. Glass is a whole other animal when it comes to intimate sensation. It’s cool and smooth and slips in soooo easily (with your favorite lube). The weight, temperature and slickness of each plug is something that really has to be experienced. It doesn’t hurt that it’s beautiful to look at, with it’s single pink crystal on the flared base to add a little sparkle to your butt (Sparklebutt!). Crystal Delights does glass well and they’re always coming up with cool ways to bedeck your bottom;  like faux bunny and pony tails, corkscrew shaped dildos and plugs and even a pink glass plug with a rhinestone Hello Kitty on the end, Crystal Delights certainly makes some of the most unique sex toys out there.  Everyone who enjoys a little anal play should own one of these beauties, in fact you might love them so much you’ll start a collection … like me. Crystal Delight Pink Crystal Butt Plug  $69.99 

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Hello Touch by Jimmyjane

Hello Touch Vibrator by Jimmyjane - Two tiny (but strong) vibrators that attach to two fingers, connected to super thin wires  and anchored to a wristband. Because the vibration is attached to fingers, it makes “vibrator”masturbation more intimate and sensual by yourself or with a partner. I frequently give my bedmate a hand job with this on, and he likes to explore me with the Hello Touch in away he’s not been able to before. Um. Wow. great for sensation play, internal or external stimulation, there’s simply so many ways you could use this gem. Done without care, the Hello Touch had the potential to be a waste of money but instead is a wonderful addition to my favorites collection. Thank goodness Jimmyjane got a really difficult to pull off product right. I simply love it. The Hello Touch makes me think if they can pull this off … maybe they could design a cunnilingus simulator that actually feels like cunnilingus? How about it Jimmyjane?  Jimmyjane Hello Touch $65.00 

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We-Vibe Tango

We-Vibe Tango – This dynamo has what I like to call the four “S’s,” small, slim, simple and STRONG which is exactly what you want in aclitoral vibe. The size of a Chapstick, The Tango is a rechargeable, waterproof little bullet that packs a punch for when you just really need to get off … like RIGHT NOW. I use it alone and with other toys (see Tantus Echo) to get a more satisfying ride. This is the only bullet you will ever need, in fact I threw away all my others. In fact, if this thing could do my taxes and cook, I would never leave the house. We-Vibe Tango  $79.99 

 

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Please Cream

Please Cream Lube by Pleasure Works - My good friend sex educator and sex toy superhero,JoEllen Notte, The Redhead Bedhead turned me on to Please Cream, now my favorite lube on the planet.  I don’t know how Pleasure Works did this, but they managed to make a water-based, body-safe, glycerin free lube, feel like and last like a hybrid lube (water-based with some silicone added). Please Cream was thick enough not run anywhere I didn’t want it to when applying and it proved to be more long-lasting than any other water-based lube I’ve tried. It even has a pleasant taste! As a Please cream Devotee, When I’m in San Francisco I buy a bunch of the 3 ounce bottles that they don’t sell online at Good Vibes because they fit so nicely in my nightstand and carry-on when I travel. Pleasure Works also make a silicone and a water-based gel too and I’m sure they’re great. I don’t know because I haven’t had any reason to try them, Please Cream is just “it” for me.   Please Cream by Pleasure Works $16.00 for 8 oz.bottle 

 

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We-Vibe 4

We-Vibe 4 Couples Vibrator - The We Vibe 3 was great and the We-Vibe 4 is even better. We-Vibe has refined it’s fourth reprise of it’s famed couples vibe by making it, well … much more “couples friendly.” The We-Vibe 4 is slimmer and made with a silicone that doesn’t become a lint magnet (which bothered me in the last iteration). They’ve upgraded the remote and streamlined it so it fits better and more comfortably in your vagina and labia. If you are having penis – vagina sex it will feel amazing on his shaft. If you are scissoring, vulva to vulva then you both win too! I like to add it to oral sex sometimes and place it at the base of his penis, you can even use it by yourself or with a dildo. Basically, the We-Vibe 4 is many toys in one, comes in a nice case, feels nice, it’s powerful and it does what it says it does. So when does it get bad?  We-Vibe 4  $159.99

 

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EVI by Aneros

EVI by Aneros – I loathe exercise of any kind … even kegel exercise, but I do it anyway because it’s good for me. So, when something comes along that makes exerting myself painless and easy, I’m in.  The EVI does just that for my PC muscles (Kegels). Aneros has been making impeccable products for men all these years, so it comes as no surprise that their first product for women is just as beautifully made. In the past I’ve described the EVI as “a barbell for your lady-bits” (yes, I referred to my vagina as “lady-bits” – don’t hate) and that’s not far off the mark. A complete departure from Ben Wa or other weighted kegel balls, the main body of EVI seems to fit perfectly into my vaginal canal, while the outside flange rests nicely on my vulva (a feeling that’s not altogether unpleasant). I’ve cleaned the house and gone shopping with it in. Though, I can’t say that will be true for every woman, I can say it works nicely for me. Women of size take note, it’s the only kegel exerciser that I can see working for ample-sized women who find it difficult to insert kegel balls.   EVI by Aneros $59.99 

 

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Sex Butter

Sex Butter  - I love this product for many reasons not the least of which is it smells yummy … peppermint with a slight hint of cocoa. Originally invented for women of a certain age who experience vaginal dryness this proprietary mix of beneficial and natural oils and butters was huge hit when it originally hit the shelves.  Now the all natural Sex Butter is in its second iteration, which has made it fluffier and even more yummy smelling. Sex Butter is perfect for committed couples that enjoy sex WITHOUT a condom (oil breaks down latex and other materials used in condoms/dams. Do not use oil based lube with a condom.)  Sex Butter is a fave because it lasts for-ever and has multiple uses. I like to massage it on my vulva every few days as a way to keep my luscious lips soft. It’s fantastic for dry skin repair, lingam/yoni massage, lip balm and to tame flyaway hairs. How many lubes can you say that about? Oh yeah, did I mention it smells yummy? Sex Butter $39.95

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Lick by Lick, Blow by Blow Oral Sex Kit by Lady Cheeky

Lady Cheeky, Redhead Bedhead, Lucky Bloke Team Up For Safer Sex Kits

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013

Outside the Box: Reflections Glass Wand with Lady Cheeky

Big, Beautiful Sex with Lady Cheeky

Our Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2013 – Kinkly.com

Lady Cheeky on Her Sexual Awakening – Sex Is Back Campaign

10 Sexeellent Ideas: Pleasure Products Mavens Share Their Ideas … – AVN Magazine

Best Kinky Sex Blogs – DatingAdvice.com

Best Sex Blog – LA Weekly Web Awards 2013

Sex In Words: The Hook-up Interview with Lady Cheeky

The Best of Tumblr Porn – Salon.com

How Lady Cheeky Got Her Groove Back – GramPonante.com

Sex and Happiness Show with Laurie Handlers – Discovering Sexuality After 40 – Internet talk Radio

Jane’s Guide Recommendation

Sex Industry Influencers and Thought Leaders Luxury Sex Toy Recommendations

Lady Cheeky’s Sex Satori – TheRumpus.net

Winner: True Tales of Erotica Competition

QUOTED:

He Said, She Said: 10 Things We Wish Sex Ed Taught Us – Huffington Post

CatalystCon Continues to Ask Challenging Questions – GramPonante.com

We Accosted Sex Experts With a Mic – Here’s What They Said – Kinkly.com

Smaller Package, Better Lover? – Huffington Post

 

 

 

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Lick by Lick, Blow by Blow Oral Sex Kit by Lady Cheeky

Lady Cheeky, Redhead Bedhead, Lucky Bloke Team Up For Safer Sex Kits

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013

Outside the Box: Reflections Glass Wand with Lady Cheeky

Big, Beautiful Sex with Lady Cheeky

Our Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2013 – Kinkly.com

Lady Cheeky on Her Sexual Awakening – Sex Is Back Campaign

10 Sexeellent Ideas: Pleasure Products Mavens Share Their Ideas … – AVN Magazine

Best Kinky Sex Blogs – DatingAdvice.com

Best Sex Blog – LA Weekly Web Awards 2013

Sex In Words: The Hook-up Interview with Lady Cheeky

The Best of Tumblr Porn – Salon.com

How Lady Cheeky Got Her Groove Back – GramPonante.com

Sex and Happiness Show with Laurie Handlers – Discovering Sexuality After 40 – Internet talk Radio

Jane’s Guide Recommendation

Sex Industry Influencers and Thought Leaders Luxury Sex Toy Recommendations

Lady Cheeky’s Sex Satori – TheRumpus.net

Winner: True Tales of Erotica Competition

QUOTED:

He Said, She Said: 10 Things We Wish Sex Ed Taught Us – Huffington Post

CatalystCon Continues to Ask Challenging Questions – GramPonante.com

We Accosted Sex Experts With a Mic – Here’s What They Said – Kinkly.com

Smaller Package, Better Lover? – Huffington Post

 

 

 

Nov 122013
 
Rachel Kramer Bussel shows of her latest anthology, The Big Book of Orgasms.

What do cupcakes, Hello Kitty and sex have in common? The answer is best- selling erotica writer, editor and anthologist Rachel Kramer Bussel. Aside from being a talented and accomplished erotica writer in her own right, one is immediately attracted to her girly sense of whimsy, fawning over cupcakes and Hello Kitty anything, to her keen sense of the carnal and concupiscent. It’s this sexy and charming juxtaposition that makes Rachel  and her work so alluring.

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Her latest (and some say greatest) anthology The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories (available in paperback and Kindle from Cleis Press) was just released this month. Not even half way through November and The Big Book of Orgasms has already  been able to glean enthusiastic reviews from readers and reviewers alike. This accomplishment has made me extra enthusiastic because I am lucky enough to have written one of those 69 Sexy Stories. You can read an excerpt from my true tale HERE. Perhaps the best part of this new anthology is it’s bite size portions of scream worthy stories (no more than 1200 words each) that make your entire body pulsate and sing.

There are some super-stars of erotica between those covers including: Emerald, Tess Danesi, Stella Harris and Rachel Kramer Bussel herself as well as some newbies (like myself). The Big Book of Orgasms is 351 pages tightly packed into a snug 7″ x 5″ paperback package you can carry in your pocketbook, perhaps fodder for 69 of your own sexy orgasms.

I asked Rachel to give me a list of her five favorite sex toys and a lube. Since one of her favorite sex toys IS lube, I decided to leave it at that. It’s an eclectic and sexy mix. Would you expect anything else from the Empress of Erotica?

RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL’S FIVE FAVORITE SEX TOYS:

Hitachi Magic Wand – my favorite, must have, go to vibrator. I use it to get off and to relax and also sometimes for back pain.

Tantus Pelt Paddle – though really all their silicon paddles pack a wonderful punch. I can’t take them all the time but when I get spanked with them it’s a special treat.

Crave Droplet Necklace – I love anything that I can multitask with, and this necklace is beautiful, makes me feel a little naughty when I wear it since I know I’m wearing something that can vibrate, and makes me feel like I can whip it off at any time and put it to good use. I also like that it’s small but strong.

Juliette Cuffs de Luxe – I’m a sucker for silk, and these feel and look amazing.

BabeLube by Babeland Lube! Last but not least, lube is the sex toy I use the most often and for the most variety of sexual activities. Main one I use is BabeLube, I’m not tied to it but like the pump bottle.

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Rachel Kramer Bussel:

Rachel Kramer Bussel is a New York-based author, editor, blogger and event organizer. She has written for numerous publications, including Alternative Press, CNN.com, The Daily Beast, The Frisky, Gothamist, The Hairpin, Huffington Post, Inked, Jezebel, Lemondrop, Mediabistro, The Nervous Breakdown, New York Post, New York Observer, New York Press, Playgirl, The Root, Salon, San Francisco Chronicle, Time Out New York, The Village Voice, xoJane and Zink. She has edited 40+ anthologies for Alyson Books, Avon Red, Cleis Press, Pretty Things Press, Ravenous Romance and Seal Press, including Anything for You: Erotica for Kinky Couples, Suite Encounters: Hotel Sex Stories, Going Down, Irresistible, Women in Lust, Orgasmic, Fast Girls, Passion, Obsessed, Bottoms Up, Spanked, Tasting Him, Tasting Her, Gotta Have It, The Mile High Club, Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories, Best Bondage Erotica 2011 and 2012, Best Sex Writing 2008, 2009, 2010 and 2012, and 6 of her anthologies have won Gold IPPY (Independent Publisher) Awards for Erotica and Sexuality/Relationships. She has contributed to over 100 anthologies, including Susie Bright’s Best American Erotica 2004 and 2006 and X: The Erotic Treasury, as well as The Sexual State of the Union and Yes Means Yes.

Rachel conducts reading and erotic writing workshops worldwide, and including Chicago, Las Vegas, London, Minneapolis, New York, Portland, San Francisco, Seattle, and Toronto. She has presented, spoken and taught at conferences including Dark Odyssey, Erotic Authors Association, Sex 2.0, and SXSW. For five years, she hosted In The Flesh Erotic Reading Series in New York City, which featured 300 readers, including Kevin Allison, Jonathan Ames, Laura Antoniou, Mo Beasley, Susie Bright, Lily Burana, Kerry Cohen, Jessica Cutler, Mike Daisey, Mike Edison, Stephen Elliott, Polly Frost, Gael Greene, HoneyB (Mary Morrison), Debra Hyde, Maxim Jakubowski, Diana Joseph, Jillian Lauren, Neal Medlyn, Scott Poulson-Bryant, Julie Powell, Josh Kilmer-Purcell, M.J. Rose, Susan Shapiro, Danyel Smith, Grant Stoddard, Cecilia Tan, Carol Taylor, Jo Weldon, Susan Wright, and Zane, among others. Rachel holds a bachelor’s degree in political science and women’s studies from the University of California at Berkeley.

 

Oct 162013
 

“We’re All Perverts”: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality with Christopher Ryan

Published on Oct 14, 2013 by ReasonTV on YouTube

Humanist_March_Apr11.indd“If you look at us as a species, we’re not very impressive,” says author Christopher Ryan. “What we’re good at is forming complex social networks.”

Christopher Ryan sits down with Reason contributor Thaddeus Russell to discuss his book, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality. Together with Cacilda Jethá, Ryan has written about the history of human sexuality and why we should fight against “socially imposed restrictions.” By looking at archaeology, primate biology, human physiology, and anthropological studies of pre-agricultural tribes from around the world, Ryan says we aren’t meant to be in life-long monogamous unions. Watch the video above as Russel and Ryan discuss desire, jealousy and the harmful consequences of repressing healthy sexuality.  About 27 mins.

Oct 152013
 

The Pleasure Chest wants you to know that SEX IS BACK.

sexisbackLast March at CatalystCon East, The Pleasure Chest was set up in conference room with a digital camera, lights and a directive: to ask people about their sex lives for their SEX IS BACK project. I took part, as did a lot of way more fascinating, interesting people including some of the sex-positive community’s most illustrious icons like; Tristan Taormino, Maria Falzone, Jessica Drake, Buck Angel and Megan Andelloux. It’s affirming and inspiring in so many ways to hear how others, discovering their kinky sidelost their virginity,  had an embarrassing sex mishap, the best sex tips and accept who they are. Mine is below, but there’s even more sexy goodness on the SEX IS BACK site so check it out: SEX IS BACK

 

Oct 122013
 

tumblr_ludca9CUwQ1r2t9z1o1_500 Originally published on gasm.org on October 11, 2013

At the end of her sexless marriage, Elle Chase went on a journey to seek the one thing she never had. This is the story of what she found.

Recently, after turning 40 and leaving a sexless marriage, I had come to the sobering realization I had never experienced “passion.” In fact, I had never identified myself as a sexual being at all and furthermore, never had pleasurable sex. I ruminated over this discovery and stunned, thought “how is it possible to reach my fortieth year never enjoying sex?” The thought was staggering, “This can’t go on” I said with determination, and made it my number one goal to achieve a fully realized and satisfied sex life … fast.

But what’s a middle-aged woman to do? I was well past the age when most women experiment, I hadn’t dated in ten years and to be honest, “dating” wasn’t interesting to me … unbridled, sweaty, sticky, lustful sex was. I was overwhelmed with what it would take to reach my goal. Where do I even start? I’m not even certain what turns me on!

Thinking back to my teenage years, I remembered that the soft-core porn of the 80’s gave me a certain tickle down-under and that I had come many times to the beautiful works of Anais Nin. The boys of that time watched porn, but these venues were socially acceptable in my circle and readily discussed with my girlfriends. But, right now my sexual thirst was so great I knew these past favorites wouldn’t satisfy. I was parched after years in the desert. I needed to take out the big guns. So, I took the leap. Contrite, I logged online and looked for a tall glass of water.

The World Wide Web offered many choices; gonzo porn, amateur porn … Click HERE to go to GASM.ORG to read the rest

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